Watch my exclusive tips on BEING HAPPY! What’s the secret? I don’t know if mine are secrets really more than just things I’ve learned along the way and adapted to make them part of my everyday life. And it made me exponentially happier. So I think they worked 😉
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ACCEPT WHAT YOU HAVE
Research shows that happy people have modest levels of expectation and aspiration — they want what they can get — while unhappy people never seem to get what they want. They also know how to avoid disappointments and how to generate pleasant surprises. This is because they strive for realistic goals and are happy with their lot in life. It doesn’t mean you can’t aspire for more. Just don’t forget to be happy in that moment.
ENJOY WHAT YOU DO
Happy people do what they enjoy and enjoy what they do — and don’t do it for the money or glory. There’s no point being stuck in a job you hate, surrounded by unfriendly colleagues just because the money is good — people forget that they are allowed to be happy at work, too. Many spend the best years of their lives trying to make money, sacrificing their health and family in the process. Later, they spend the same money they made working trying to recover their lost health and estranged relationships.
LIVE FOR TODAY
Don’t dwell on the past, on things that went wrong or previous failures. Similarly, don’t spend too much time daydreaming about a picture perfect future that doesn’t exist or worry about what hasn’t happened yet. There is a difference between having a dream and obsessing over someday. Happy people live for the now; they have positive mind sets. If you can’t be happy today, what makes you think tomorrow will be different?
Don’t be afraid to step back and re-evaluate your goals. Imagine your life as a story that you can edit and revise as you go along. This kind of flexible approach requires positive thinking and an open mind — you need to actively choose to be happy.
We get our happiness from other people, and from supporting other people. Remember that just as other people can make us happy, we are all ‘other people’ to someone else. And cherish people who are important to you.
If you want to be happier, develop an outgoing, social personality — accept that dinner invitation, join the walking club, book group or choir. The best way to savor pleasure is in the company of others. Build a rich social life, not as an obligation, but because it is rewarding, meaningful and fun. If you’re more introverted, that’s okay, join an online book club or just go outside and garden.
Ambition is healthy and makes people happy, but envy will kill you. Comparisons with others can spoil the benefits of ambition and are only useful if you learn something from them. Focus on your goals and dreams so you can enjoy your achievements.
Just as you shouldn’t compare yourself with others, it’s important not to worry about what others think about you — then you can truly be yourself.
Happy people are spontaneous, authentic and transparent; they say what they think and feel, and aren’t concerned what others think of them. Being oneself makes one feel free from judgements and issues of low self-esteem.
Don’t take yourself too seriously. Happy people don’t worry and they recognize that 90 per cent of worries never come true.
You might envy those laid-back types who just do things on the spur of the moment, but don’t be fooled. Happy people plan and organize, they have goals and a purpose. You can only get what you want or desire if you know what it is you want or desire in the first place. Happy people don’t just sit and wait for ‘happy’ things to happen to them and while those chilled-out friends might seem happy, they’re actually just drifting along. To get yourself on an amazing path of goal setting and motivation leave your email for my 30 day bootcamp here:
Bottling up emotions and bad feelings creates psychological distress and physical discomfort. Happy people get things off their chest, their motto is: get rid of it, or it will get rid of you. Similarly, work at developing optimistic thinking; happy people always look on the bright side.
We need to switch from a negative, glass-half-empty outlook to a glass-half-full and put optimism into practice to be happiest. Optimism is the mind’s natural self-defense mechanism against depression.
Happiness can be learned, but finding meaning and a purpose in life is what leads to it, not the other way around. The happiest people appreciate and realize that being happy adds a value and importance to their life.
What’s your best secret “be happy” advice?